This third tip requires you to watch a 60 second YouTube video here.  Parent often want to talk with me about boundaries and consequences.  There are numerous possibilities, but the best one to use comes at the end of this video.

Chapter 9 of my book gives some ideas about helpful consequences too.  Although I use the term “punishment” above, consequences work best when they are framed as a “promise” for a given event, and a deterrence for next time, not a punishment.  It’s business, not personal.

The shop-keeper’s motto: “Take what you want, and pay for it”.